When you decide to file for divorce, the following weeks can turn into a heated whirlwind of legal battles and high emotions. That’s why it’s important to develop an action plan and stick to it before proceedings begin. Here are four tips on what to do and what to avoid.
1. Consult With a Divorce Lawyer
Divorce cases are rarely black and white. There are dozens of factors that go into deciding important outcomes like child custody and spousal support. Therefore, it is essential to consult with a divorce lawyer even if you and your spouse are on amicable terms. Certain disputes are simply best resolved with the help of legal aid.
2. Document Everything
Once you’ve decided to file for divorce, it’s important to start keeping physical records of everything that could be relevant in court. Some examples include:
- Communications: Keep track of dates, times, and content of all communication with your spouse including phone calls, emails, text messages.
- Expenses: Record all expenses you encounter while your divorce is pending so the court knows what support you may be entitled to.
- Visitations: Record the date and times of all visitations you and your spouse has with your children. This can be essential for determining child custody in the future.
3. Protect Your Privacy
When your spouse is served after you file for divorce, your privacy can be the first thing to go. There are a few important steps you should take to protect yourself before that happens. These include:
- Changing all of your passwords on mobile phones and computers, especially social media and financial websites.
- Placing a verbal password on all credit cards and financial resources.
- Changing your house alarm code if you live alone.
4. Be Mindful of Children
It may be tempting to talk poorly about your spouse during a divorce, however it is crucial not to speak ill of him or her during this period, especially to children. If possible, talk to your kids together about the divorce in order to minimize emotional damage and confusion. If you don’t feel comfortable doing so, enlisting the help of a family counselor is recommended.
These are just some of the most important steps to take after filing for divorce, however every case is different. Talking to an experienced family law attorney should always be the first step when filing for divorce. Contact us today to find out how we can help.
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